As a fellow lover of transformation I’m guessing that you, like me, have a bit of a distinction between the old you and the new you. The old you is the conditioned, programmed, reactive part of you and the new you, the much more conscious, present and responsive part of you. And boy do they battle – that’s why we feel stuck!
At the heart of all outer stuck-ness is inner conflict and it’s usually between these parts of you. It feels like one part is pulling forward and another is pulling back. The old you gets judged as wrong and something to resist while the new you is seen as right, leaving you expending a ton of energy trying to get rid of the old and embrace the new.
In some self-help/personal development/spiritual growth circles it’s seen as an admirable thing. Think of all the “look forward, not backwards” type quotes out there.
Forget the old you and the new you, let’s go for the REAL you!
The real you is what it’s all about, and that includes the integration of the old and new you.
The truth is nothing is wasted, what was missing from the old you was aspects of the new you and if the new you ain’t quite feeling right, it’s probably because it’s missing aspects of the old you. Both have parts that serve you. For me as much as my old me was fear-driven, unconscious and constantly seeking external approval, she was also so much fun, hilarious, buzzy and vibrant. As much as the new me is peaceful, present, centred and accepting, she’s also kinda dull and lacking fire!
The real me contains it all and then some!
So while it’s lovely to uncover hidden aspects of yourself, don’t lose the best of who you were. Lose the bits that don’t work for you and keep the bits that do but please, don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.
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